Thank you all for the support.

I have a few friends who've dealt with a similar thing, but unfortunately I feel that their parents aren't so extreme in their reactions, in terms of the meanness and manipulation. What I am unable to stand is how she claimed my bf was lying to me about his work situation, and was conferring with her coworkers that he was lying. She also keeps claiming he's beneath me and my friends wouldn't tell me the truth, but she that will. Again, she's met him once, has no real basis for this, but I am sure she will just say that she 'has a feeling' about it.

It's hard for me to think she wants the best for me, when she causes me so much pain. I already was limiting the amount of information I told her, only telling her the good things, that my bf got promoted at work, was doing well, but she twisted it to say that he was lying to me about getting promoted. I guess on the positive side, at least she wasn't calling up his boss to confirm whether he was really working there or not...

It is just hard for me to understand why she is on the warpath with him. Another thing she does is call up psychics who tell her he is controlling and manipulative and that he has manipulated me into staying with him. None of this is true, but she believes that it is. So this has turned into a total overblown nightmare. It makes me feel really sad that this is happening, because I don't think she realizes what she is doing. I didn't like my father growing up, but I consoled myself bc my mother was there for me. However, I am realizing that she has done really terrible things as well. It really stinks and I know I need to look forward, but it is still really hard, bc I feel betrayed by the one parent I thought had my back. The only sort of consolation I guess is that it's her not me, because she doesn't talk to any relatives anymore and doesn't really have any friends.

It is unfortunate bc me and my bf are no where near getting married and we are on our own timeline. Our careers are more important at the moment, so I am not sure why my mother is creating all this drama now. Again, I guess she has some kind of undiagnosed mental illness. Just wish I could figure out what and wish someone would diagnose her.