This thing they say in the opening of the meeting, paraphrased "we didn't cause it, we can't control it, we can't cure it, WE ARE ONLY RESPONSIBLE FOR OUR OWN REACTIONS."

This makes me ashamed of "taking" this sort of maltreatment for the entirety of my life, from my parents on through 3 long term relationships. It's meant to comfort people but it points out my flaws and makes me embarrassed that it took me this long to stand up against mistreatment.

I don't know if it's a motto or what, but I heard it repeated numerous times over the course of the 2 meetings I attended.