While I know this is not a rhetorical question, I wish you could have given us more of the situation you are addressing.

The Bible speaks of many things, forgiveness is one of them...but it's also because it's good for US if we forgive and not harbor ill feelings. But we are also told to not cast our pearls before swine... meaning good words can be wasted on those who can't be bothered to care. Like I said, I could address it better if I know more...

As for not inflicting any pain, no, no "good Christian" intentionally hurts another. But it does happen, thus the need for forgiveness from others.

Are you a Christian dealing with these issues?

TC!