How is your partner now?

What you are wanting isn't unreasonable ... it's a very valid feeling and desire. I know I've been hurt several times in therapy where I needed, expected and wanted my T to follow up on urgent medical situations and when he didn't found after a lot of tears, thoughts of he doesn't care and hurt ... that he was usually leaving it to me to let him know. That way he thought it wouldn't be intrusive and I could share when it was good timing for me ...

I had an earlier T who flooded me with about twenty emails asking for an immediate reply on how I was ... that seemed like a more obvious show of care (more tangible somehow) ... but ... I think it is was just two different people and how they respond differently based on their own stuff and doesn't really connect to the question of how much they do or don't care

Hope you can talk about this with your T