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Originally Posted by hamster-bamster
"permissiveness" is a really, really bad term in the context you are describing. Can you think of something better? "more open-minded"? "society embraces more...[fill in the blanks as suiting your purposes].... than two generations ago"?
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Perhaps I'm simply insensitive, but it does describe my own feelings. I'm not certain I can relate to what you're taking issue with, but I'm willing to give it a shot. Feel free to elaborate via PM if you're comfortable with that.
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Originally Posted by hamster-bamster
Since your son leans towards outcasts, he may just be trying hats of minorities to see if they fit him. That, too, MAY pass.
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Possibly. It might not. I'm ... well, prepared probably is not the right word. But, wherever he goes with this, he's still my son.
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Originally Posted by hamster-bamster
Why do you have to tell your wife? Can you let the son confide in her as he chooses? Did the son authorize you to disclose this information to his mom?
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I don't generally hide things from my wife (and frankly, I am *horrible* at it). Just being on this forum and not mentioning it makes me uncomfortable.
My son and I discussed this during our talk last night. Part of the problem is sleepovers - as I mentioned, he's 13, and it isn't uncommon for his friends to stay here and vice-versa. I'd never have allowed a female friend to stay over, tho. Knowing what I know now, how can I allow his guy friends to sleep over without being completely hypocritical? And if he quits asking, Mom's gonna figure out something is up anyway.