My father belongs to a large, doomsday Armegheddon Christian cult. I grew up in this cult and left it. I am an apostate and publicly speak against the cult. He knows, as I've even written scholarly, peer reviewed articles agains the cult. I have met with psychological groups who help people out of the cult. The cult is recognized for following the BITE model of cults.

Starting 14 years ago, he went back to the cult. He was in his late 60s. He had people from the cult visit my door. I turned them away and now they have stopped. However, every few weeks, he writes me letters, e-mails, text messages about the cult. Last year, we came to an understanding that I was not going to join the cult. No way in "hell" (pardon the pun). He agreed to not send me anything else. He kept that promise until August, when he sent me certified letters, several e-mails, and texts. Once again, we came to an understanding. I thought it was cured. Yesterday, has sent me 5 e-mails.

Basically, his only "contact" with me is to be his sounding board for cult recruitment and/or to do his taxes each year. I am being used. Yesterday, I blocked him from my e-mail. If I get his mail, I am planning on returning it.

Other cult members in the family tried to borrow/repay me several thousand dollars. They live in a dream world, have super expensive hobbies/outlets, can't pay for routine expenses. It started with them needing $50 for a week, increasing to a few hundred. They absolutely hate that I am an apostate, but want my money. I cut them off from lending money earlier this year. So, they called me selfish! That's ok with me, because I drew the line and am not being used. I gave it a few months, and they contacted me again, wanting to see if I was coming to visit over winter break. I told them "No, too busy." One word replies is all I am willing to share with them. I feel that they are toxic and are trying to use me.

I do feel guilty, because he is my father, diabetic, and elderly. I think he has OCD. But, not the hand washing type . . . the thought type. He can't get a thought out of his head (like trying to recruit me). He refuses to go to a psychologist because his cult's beliefs and his proudness that there is nothing wrong with him. The other relatives have refused to give me his doctor's name. He lives several hundred miles away. But, I wish he'd just stop. I've accepted the fact that we will never have any meaningful relationship.

Any suggestions? I'd like to tell him and the rest of the group to "***** off". After 14 years, I am ready for it. I wish they shunned me like they are supposed to do.