So it's my fathers birthday and he lives quite away from me, almost an hours drive. I haven't got the best of relationships with my parents, you can search my old threads but i'll give a bit of background anyway. He is very negative and antagonistic especially towards me, I think he's always been depressed (now I look back) but he would never admit or get help for it. My mother is terrible at showing emotion. Needless to say I grew up thinking they never understood me or actually ever wanted me. I suffer with anxiety.

Anyway its his birthday and as he lives quite far and I have a child that attends school, I knew I couldn't get there today so I called him first thing to wish him happy birthday. I could tell straight away he was in no good mood. I said sorry you know I can't get through to see you but i'll see you tomorrow. He snapped, that its his birthday today and if I couldn't get his card & gift to him today why didn't I post it?! Well firstly I thought handing it to him in person was the best option. Obviously not in his eyes. Conversation was quite short and I said to him and my mother, have a nice day and left it at that.
A few hours later I pick my little one up from school and we ring granddad to wish him happy birthday. He was fine on the 'phone to my child, commenting on how grown up they sound on the phone etc. Little one says to him, wish we could come over today. I don't know if this upset him or what but he ended the call with 'ohh I don't think i'm coming over tomorrow eve now'.
He's made me feel like i'm such a bad daughter once again and then the other part of me is thinking why oh why do I bother with such a miserable, selfish man