Hi, I'm new. A person told me to post my issues on this thread. I will try to make it short.

Grew up in a cult. A real cult. It follows the BITE model of cults. No, it's not a religion, it's a cult.

I left it completely about 14 years ago. Attended a regular church, and am now pretty much agnostic. My dad and sister are still in the cult. They do not follow the cult's rules, and speak to me. I publish and speak against the cult, they still speak to me.

But, they are super critical of me and how I am raising my family (normal, not in a cult, and teaching them shades of grey, how to analyze, think for themselves). I will not allow them to preach to my kids. I have trained my kids to not talk with these relatives. Still, I catch my father trying to preach to my oldest. She's now 13 and rips him up pretty good. I gave him hell for it, because I caught him red handed trying to indoctrinate her the last time he visited (9 months ago).

During that visit, his entire time was spent trying to indoctrinate me. But, he's don't that for the past 14 years. My relatives have sent hundreds of certified letters to my house, e-mails of cult materials, had cult members ring my door, etc. I've ignored, gotten mad, slammed doors, returned mail.

My relatives have the same pattern. First, be nice to Roberta. Engage Roberta in nostalgic small talk. Then, try to convince her that the world is going to end in a massive fire and only cult members are going to be saved. Roberta gets mad, and then they disappear. Before they do, they call me a devil worshipper, satan follower, etc. About 3 weeks later, "They're Back!"

The other thing they do is to butter me up to borrow money. Over the past 7 years, I've must have given them over $5,000. They spend more than they make and devote alot of time to the cult. So, they don't have gas money, mortgage money, money to fix a car . . . . They all hold decent, well paying, above average jobs. While i had a great career for a large part of this, I currently don't work, have two kids, and it's really my husband's money that they get. In June, I was hit up for $2,000. I told them, "No." They called me materialistic, greedy, worldly, etc. About three weeks later, the person who needed the money asked if I was going to visit during the upcoming school break! I said, "No. Got too much other stuff to do" I cut everything short with this sibling.

So, yesterday, I got several e-mails from my father about the cult. He's, once again, violating his agreement. I became extremely angry, and returned the e-mails with choice words, threats of calling the police for cyberstalking, and calling the elders in his group to admonish him. (They are supposed to leave ex-cult members alone and anyone alone who does not want to be called upon).

Afterwards, I cut them off. I blocked them from my mail server and unfriended on Facebook. Today, my father left a message on my cell phone, "I love you, Roberta." I'm sure his friendliness is part of the "butter Roberta up, then hurt her, then blame her" cycle that they use.

Anyone else ever cut off their family?