we had talked about separation before. She did I talked her out of it, but she has moved out now. She has moved in with her recently widowed dad and transferred with her job. I stay in the house with the kids all teen agers. in my mind I think I should be trying to get her to stay that she wants me to do this, but the other side is I am tired. Tired of it all, the eggshells the wondering if she is happy today. we have been married 15 years