Oh I have spent much of my life not fitting in DePressMe. I have to tell you that I am a child of "priveledge". I think that that is a misleading word. I had a difficult birth and had much difficulty connecting with people. I never felt like I could do anything...had no faith in myself and people did not reach me to help me get out of where I was. I did not know how to get out. I have been in therapy for many years to get out of this place. I was (and still am) a too sensitive soul and was rather a puzzle no one took the time to help me figure it out... but not getting help was probably not that unusual for that time in society. However I wish more attention was given. It was not malicious, just clueless... I keep telling myself it was not malicious.

My parents were well educated and to the outside world I was privledged. My father was an anesthesiologist and my mother went back to school after raising us to get her Psychatry residency under her belt. I did not share how well educated my parents were as I always told myself that I did not want preferencial treatment. In actuality while myself and my sibs are educated to college level on a paid basis. So I was priviledged in that regard. But there were so many difficulties for me with self worth and depression that the priviledge was in my opinion not there. Perhaps it is my problem for not taking better advantage of it but never felt that I could shoot for the stars. I chose a degree in Social Work with Soc and Psych minors as my interests just went there natually like a vining rod... Those majors were my interest but they were also helping me make sense of the world and my brain.

My parents came from the depression era so we had money but we did not realise we had money...cause we were not allowed to spend it... lol... I think people from the depression know where they have been and wish to make sure they will not go there again.

So financial priviledge yes.... emotional privilege and preservation ...not so much.

I feel guilty often for having not done more given the financial priviledge I have had.... no question of the next meal, etc.. I am independent and making it and have an okay job but am not lighting the world on fire. I am perpetually single and overweight and still depressed. These are not my goals for my life and they are being worked on. I have my quirks....and friends.. but friends are often down to earth and off the beaten path. I do not that I am always seen as normal as at work I have intelligence but sadness... I get in my own way....I know this.

You have much to be proud of DPM...and I think that it is true that you will appreciate it so much more having gone this way. I want you to feel better about your successes and all that you have done. You HAVE DONE IT .....

Your priviledge is that you took the first step and the next step and the next step and you have grown to the opportunities that presented themselves to your or that YOU created. You, my dear DePressMe... are what they call the American Dream. You have much to be proud of and in time you may share your story to offer others hope in their struggles to get to where you are today.

Consider the source of the comment. This could be something that she was reminded of by her parents or who knows. If you believe she might merit by your telling her... you might care to. If you feel that she is an elitist... than I would just stay clear.