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Originally Posted by Leah123
I think you two might just be pathologizing normal behavior.
I think the real consequence of the abuse seems to be choosing a safe but uninteresting man to marry for security. I did the same thing at 20. I love him, but am not attracted as I am to women. Considered myself a lesbian prior. I loved that life and lifestyle, lived it too briefly, but I lost a lot of family when I disclosed the abuse, and then was kicked out of my home, and you know what, as little as I like to admit it, I was very very scared and life seemed way too unstable. I didn't want to risk more estrangement and instability, so...
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1. I totally agree with the first statement. I had a friend who was a t and who was CSA, and she told me that her male t told her, that she was unusual in escaping the odds of becoming a sex worker. Idk - maybe all sex workers are csa or sa, but i DONT think if a person has been csa or sa, then they become a sex worker. I have more than a few friends who have been sa, but none who are sex workers. As Stopdog says, ts dont do much math - but maybe they need to!!
2. This 2nd part i quoted describes so well what i have been going thru recently. Only for me, it wasnt a matter of male or female, it was more, similar to my family or not similar to my family. I wasnt similar to my family - at least not my mother and brother, but they were the big mouths, deciding if my dates were "cool" enough or not. Now i think my brother wanted such a big say because he wanted to "bond" with his future BIL
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Anyway, thanks for articulating this for me.