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Originally Posted by starbuke
omg she has totally forgotten that she didn't like him. It annoys me and naturally if I call her out on this, she'll throw it back on me, and say I was the one who ultimately decided not to be with him. She only now is ok w/him bc he isn't a threat anymore.
I think mine feels bad and will do nice stuff, but it usually consists of buying me something. I just think she doesn't know any other way to be nice, and material things is the only thing she knows.
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Ohh...
Whatever you do,
don't put a single ounce of faith in that. Your mother sounds
exactly like mine. She
knows it annoys you and that's why she does it. My mother feigns ignorance, 'forgets' things countless times only for her to throw it in my face not too long after. She'll miraculously remember the next time she's angry by you asserting your independence...
Then she'll turn around & do a small gesture - usually a material thing. Most of the time it's a little thing she knows I will like, something that portrays her as thoughtful...
Then the cycle continues...
Exactly why I've
completely shut her out. Feeling bad about doing wrong then
doing something nice to get what is desired is NOT being nice - that's being MANIPULATIVE. She has NO idea of what's going on in my life. Like yours,
she'll never admit fault.
Not to say you have to do the same; just saying to be extra careful.
