Living like this surely is a struggle...
I have the same problem. It took time but I came to learn that this is true:
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Originally Posted by healingme4me
Learning how to detach, is a good skill to address and work on, for yourself. So, that, you, yourself aren't walking on eggshells and so that your own moods aren't determined by hers.
If she is unable to address herself and her own needs, that's her issue, not yours.
It's a hard road, but being emotionally free of the emotions of others, is liberating.
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Sever every possible tie that makes you dependent on her. And I really mean every single one...yes, it will take time. How long depends on you. You've already mentioned financially, that's a great start. You said you don't have a job but aren't using any of her money. Do all you can to keep it that way. If possible, get a job. If not, use every possible resource before EVER going to her. You'll still have the hard times, especially as long as you're there, but when you're less
enmeshed in her you'll be breathing a bit easier.
