A lot of sex is experience? So, if you are use to touching yourself and doing things yourself then another's touch is not going to be "right" for quite awhile perhaps and then, only if you "work" at it/want it. Getting to "know" another person is precisely that, practice with that other person over time so you both get good at working together. It's like you are a member of a team only you want to do things by yourself? That won't get the team working together to win?