It can be upsetting when you first learn you have BPD-- but remember, that is a label-- BPD is a personality disorder (obviously) which means that you have used these ways of coping for a very, very long time. They are part of your character. So nothing has really changed. When I 1st started getting panic attacks and was diagnosed w/ panic disorder, I was like, "Oh sh**" because something new was going on... but when I was diagnosed with BPD, I didn't care so much because all I knew was that it was a name for the coping mechansims that I had been using for as long as I can remember.