Well some of that info is from my own research, but yes-definitely read the book. Like I said, it was eye-opening when my therapist told me to read it. So spot-on!
Ahhh! Mine does that too with the gifts. If she doesn't get a gift, it's a big deal. Of course she complains about gifts she doesn't like either.
Mine actually has very few friends, if any. So it's not hard for me to realize SHE has a problem. She is just mean/weird with everyone.