Sadmommy,
Just the way he put on his wedding ring, in anticipation of counseling (you are right!), and then the caustic comment...What does he mean by this "Where's the love?"
Does he feel you are not affectionate enough toward him?
and thus, refused to wear his ring? This is emotional blackmail in the worst way, in my opinion. So, now he is supposed to be rewarded by you because he put on his ring?
Perhaps you could talk of this to the counselor, his responses, etc., if you feel uncomfortable about revealing your knowledge of the pictures.
Patty