So, I just started a new nanny job in August. I don't like it. The family seemed really nice, they have three preschool aged boys, and the parents were very open and friendly. But since I've started, it's just been one thing on top of another.
A) The older boy is very big for his age. I strongly suspect he may have Oppositional Defiant Disorder and may be Autistic as well. He is very hard to manage, and frequently leaves bruises on me from kicking/hitting/etc.
B) The parents' discipline philosophy and mine are very different. They don't use the word no. They don't use time outs. They don't discipline! The boys refuse to listen to me because they "don't want to". I'm the nanny, I only have the tools of discipline that the parents give me. I have no tools. I have a very hard time managing these two.They run wild and crazy and I'm exhausted from chasing them down and removing them to more "constructive" activities.
C) The mom is a control freak. She seems so nice! Which is why this is so confusing. Each day when I come to work, there's a new rule. The boys must get outdoor exercise every day during my shift. Okay. No cell phone/texting/phone calls. Well, all right. Most parents don't have an issue with the nanny answering a text here or there, but no biggie. Please wash hands every day before shift. Um? Okay. Please wipe down bathrooms so they don't smell like pee after the boys use it. Please write down everything you do with the boys during the day. Please write down exact times of everything you do with the boys during the day. Please be sure boys also get some quiet time. Please wipe down the kitchen. Please cook dinner. Please do art with the boys. Please clean playroom. EVERY DAY THERE'S A NEW RULE AND I'M GOING CRAZY.

I'm just having a really hard time keeping up with this family. I'm constantly exhausted. The boys don't know how to self-entertain, because the mom wants you to be constantly "stimulating" them. I don't want to continue this job, but I also feel terrible about wanting to quit--I just started! The family said they were hoping to find someone who can stay with them for years. I told them I was looking for a long-term position. The thing is, I don't think we fit. The family is much more active than I am, and keeping up with the boys' activities is really wearing on me. I don't think I can provide for the special needs of the oldest boy. And my discipline philosophy is just so different from that of the parents'. I don't know what to do now. Should I quit? How should I do it? I would appreciate any input :/