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Originally Posted by The Skeezyks
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It definitely isn't sour... and I'm not really looking around per se. I just don't like this change. I don't have any thoughts about ending the relationship. I don't have any desire to end it. It wasn't even built on sexual or physical attraction. I'm not particularly attractive myself. She is. That's part of what makes it a puzzle I suppose. It's just disappointing to see this part of the relationship go.
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Originally Posted by Bewilderbeest
You can be strong. And it doesn't require a pure heart, just some good ol-fashioned "want-to".
There is *nothing* easy about staying in a relationship long-term. It is hard. But it is also worth it. That new relationship excitement always fades, sooner or later. You have to find other things about that person that you love, that don't 'get old'.
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I understand that. I love just about everything about this person. I suppose the first thing I noticed about her was her looks but that isn't where the love comes from. As a matter of fact it began as just a friendship and that's still the most important part. As I said to Skeezyks... I'm just not happy about this development and I'm puzzled and disappointed.
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Originally Posted by Little Lulu
The Skeeyks is right ... everything does become familiar in time ... but, that doesn't mean we can't work through it. Maybe you want to be the exception???
Just because it is hard doesn't mean it is bad for you. Could be an opportunity for personal growth.
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Of course I want to be exceptional
I do understand what you're saying and it's good.
Maybe I'm overthinking this but it seems like unless I understand it I can't resolve it.
I think that deep down I'm just wondering if its a case "now that I've got it I don't value it as much." That would kind of undermine all that I think that I am and who I want to be.