In general, I have been a person that accepts responsibility for her actions and choices. My mother taught me to make an effort to see all the aspects of a situation or problem, including my own doing. On the other hand, I have been trained within a critical social paradigm so I recognize the influence of diverse conditionings on people's thinking and acting so I don't believe in total freedom or extreme individualism. Trying to keep a balance in my mind regarding my own responsibility vs environmental factors that are not under my control, and focusing on what I can do instead of getting stuck in blaming others (as a practical approach to solve issues) worked very well for me to live with a disability (which I adquired when I was 17). I must say that I have been told that I sometimes was in denial or not acknolewdging the evil of certain people around me then I got hurt. It is true. I have been always trying to go ahead and not paying attention to details. This is not always good.
But, since I got my depression, a sense of victim hood has been installed in me. Often I feel powerless, hopeless. I resent people. Sometimes I am more lucid and see what clearly has been hapenning for a long time ( like some people using me). But sometimes I am just irritable, exaggerating, unable to see the goodness in others or their circumstances.
I think that thinking ourselves as victims does not help.
Have you ever experienced this sense of victimhood?