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Originally Posted by SkyWhite
Is he getting any therapy or counseling for his problems? This sounds like typical BPD behavior, but it also sounds like severe emotional abuse. Even if he doesn't have a T maybe you could get yourself a counselor. It sounds like you really need help to deal with this man. Even if he has these problems he can still choose his behavior. There are many people with these conditions that don't behave this way towards their spouse. It seems he think he can get away with all this because he has mental health issues.
Maybe you could sit down with him and tell him how his behavior is hurting you. Have a heart to heart discussion. You don't have to be a martyr for this man. Abuse is abuse.
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I am seeing a therapist once a week. She told me she rarely recommended a wife leaving a husband but he is toxic and I need to get away from him. That was over 8 months ago. But he lives in the house I just bought im not going to move I love where I live and I love him
So my t and I are working on my childhood trauma and trying to work and help my self esteem. But I have no support so thats why I joined the forum.
All the love I have ever known my whole life has come with abuse I guess I just think its part of it
Plus who else is going to want a 49 year old women who has major baggage
He wont get help no matter how much I try to convince him.
I know people here probably think I am just a whinny baby and I just need to boot him out. But I do really love him and I have spent 20 years with him. He needs help but I dont know how to get it for him and when I try it usually backfires on me I see my t tonight