why would their vaginal area hurt and be red if there wasn't sexual abuse? how else would it be explained? be persistent in contacting those counselors, show up at the office if you need to. I have heard that in texas they will not let you leave the state with your children so you will have to have a very good case. getting that counselor is going to be very important. my advice is not to say upfront that you want them to testify in a court case. they do not like providing counseling for that reason and it is hard to get a counselor under those circumstances. discuss how they have a difficult relationship with their dad, that you feel you may be in a abusive relationship and you question whether they may have been molested and you don't know how to talk to them about it. the counselor is mandated to report any abuse. take care and good luck.