I live in texas if you have all of this evidence there is no way they will turn you down especially with regards to your childrens safety. There are plenty of resources depending on where you live in the state, you can google for list of places that might help you. Have you been going to the police if you have recorded events of this it will make your case even stronger. I do have to say if there is no sexual abuse your childrens private areas should not show any signs of anything as well. Do you have reasons of your own for not wanting to go the police? Counseling will do them some good but will not make it completely better if you truely want what is best for your children you need to get out NOW!