Depends really on why she left & what it was that she no longer could tolerate about the marriage that caused her to leave. There is nothing you can really say.....it needs to be up to her whether she's willing to come back or not.

I stayed married for 33 years (the last 13 years of that we were separated but living in the same house).....it only made life worse not better......if she's out there is some reason she needs to be away & she needs to work out what the issues are & she needs to communicate those reasons to you so that you can have an understanding of why she left......but honestly at the time I was living with my H in the same house, I didn't know just how bad things were until I finally got out 7 years ago.....then I could finally see the forest for the trees & I was finally able to define all that had been wrong for those 33 years. I wouldn't have had the insight at the time I left, I just knew there were serious things wrong that were really making me angry.....distance & time has given me the capability to put words to those feelings.

I feel the best way to fight for a marriage is to let the person go & understand themselves. Then it can be worked out or NOT. If both are willing to go to marriage counseling....that would be a good idea to talk things through.....before I finally left, we were both seeing my T.....those sessions only made me realize just how much I really disliked my H....& never had loved him.

She may come back....but then again, she may not want. The important thing is that when an opportunity to communicate arises.....make sure you communicate.