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Originally Posted by prinssa
This argument of me cheating continues to constantly be the main topic in our relationship when it happened 7 months ago.
Even so he's insisting on moving in together. He has also brought me into his family which is something very personal for him and has never done so before. He did this after we began the arguments of cheating.
What is he trying to do? Is he just giving me a hard time for being with someone else or what is happening?
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Sometimes with an untreated MI, there will be so much conflicting and confusing whirls of emotions, that these behaviors of drawing you closer aren't more than them trying to placate their fears. There's probably a ton of unexpressed self torment.
Not that the desire isn't genuine, but you probably bring out the most intense of emotions.
Seven months is a long time for so much arguing. It's truly like a pull/push scenario. Hoping it away, and/or waiting for this to settle down/change, won't be enough.
Are either of you, in counseling? A relationship like this, would need you both doing your own heavy hitting work. You to deal, him to peel back the layers of what's ailing him.