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Originally Posted by MoxieDoxie
There is nothing for me to gain by telling them. Besides I have heard their stance on mental illness from, "for G-D sakes get over it" to "they use it as an excuse to get away with responsibilities". I do not have the patience to even try to educate and convince them. I will stay in the closet and let them continue thinking I am just a cold, moody, ***** and odd. I can't even imagine what they would say if they new I make myself throw up and under stress self harm. I cringe at their reaction. No way. I am all set with telling anyone. My husband does not even know all the details. How pathetic is that?
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I don't think this is pathetic. My parents, siblings and my husband know very few details regarding my issues, which are the same as yours. I think in general we have to pick and choose what details to share and with whom.
In some cases I've seen an explanation of MI to family members be very helpful- it put the pieces of together for them so to speak and things made sense. For others this might not be the case and may only cause more distress on both ends, so it's important to remember that. I doubt my sharing any details of my SI or eating disordered past with my mom would serve much purpose at this point except to upset her. But she is elderly and I'm in my forties so there isn't ant reason to tell her now. My history goes back to my early teens so my family knows that much, but my brothers consider it drama and my parents just smothered me and tried to find blame. What's going on in my adult life now doesn't directly affect my present relationships with my family so I don't see a reason to share this info. My H wouldn't understand and could be judgmental about it. My pdoc even told me he doesn't need to know.