I left a verbal abuser after 31 years of marriage at age 60 The Verbally Abusive Relationship by Patricia Evans saved my life. You can't force him to get help, so it is important to stay in counseling, and perhaps you will recognize you don't deserve to be abused. Verbal abuse affects us physically, also. Every time you are under stress, cortisol is released and cortisol damages the immune system.

What is it that you love about him?

I am a 67 year old woman and not worried about who would want me We all have baggage; it is what you do with it.

It is almost impossible to work on your self-esteem, when you are constantly being abused. Your t needs to be working on your reasons for staying and a plan for leaving, if that is what you want.