.. I'm not a huggy person with most, lease of all with T's (feels way too vulnerable, and lots of body boudary issues from abuse)...[/quote]

I am not a huggy person either. My husband and youngest son are. I told T very early on that it is something I struggle with and have had to work on knowing that hugging is okay and doesn't mean anything sexual. So maybe that is why hugging T seems so therapeutic for me..