Sux not to have t for a full month!!!

Sounds like a good idea to tell t how you feel about his absence....how you want to hurt him....see, if you tell him about how angry you are you want to hurt him....you're being honest in a mature way....get what I'm saying?.....you're not being passive aggressive,....you're expressing your anger, you're telling him what you want to do to him....bang his head against a brick wall....and I just hope he really listens to you and sits with you in your moment of anger and pain.....

And try not to worry about him being hurt....it's his job to take care of himself...though I routinely ask my t is what I have just said has been hurtful...yeah, I check in on her emotional states....not in an effort to take care of her...but so that we can talk about my own need to make sure she's not angry or upset at me....and what it means to me....