I just embrace the labels now, in a way it's nice to know I'm weird and "abnormal." Normal is boring!!

Maladaptive to me just means it's not working. Hopefully your T can find some words that seem less harsh to you, but I wouldn't feel too bad about being called maladaptive. A lot of the stuff I did to adapt as a kid is killing me now, but I have more info now, so I can make better choices. I think your T is just trying to point out areas you should consider changing. Best not to rest on your laurels, I think whether a person is normal or weird or abused as a kid or not we need to constantly be evaluating what we're doing and why to see if there might be a better way.