Skies, you're right, it is rage. And there seems to be a ton of it. My mother wasn't controlling, more emotionally manipulating. My Dad was more controlling I'd say. So I don't know where the fear and resentment of boundaries comes from. My mother didn't really set boundaries with me as a teenager thru guilt for abandoning me as a child. She felt like she didn't have the right and I think my underlying rage made her fearful of trying. (maybe)