I noticed one pattern in people who suffered emotional or physical abuse or neglect as children. They go one way or another as adult parents of their own children. Some repeat the cycle. But some have processed their childhood experiences in a way that makes them realize there is a better way. So, they make excellent parents, because they refuse to treat their kids the way they were treated.

I've had three children in my life, only one is still alive. Disclaimer - they weren't/aren't human, they were/are dogs. I pride myself on being a great doggy daddy. I've had 3 or 4 vets over the years, and they all have told me, at one point or another, that I'm the best dad. Because I don't hesitate to take care of whatever medical issues arise. Actually, all of my dogs have been spoiled. My current dog has his own pillow and blanket, and I will cover him up except his head, which he himself puts on the pillow, and he loves it. What's not to like - especially since that is on the sofa about 90% of the time.