kindergirl, I was in therapy 9 years and then terminated, both my T and me deciding to and it was a different experience than what you are imagining now, before you are "ready" to terminate. The bond changes over therapy and isn't as "strong" as it seems now as you "fix" stuff and get better.

Remember when you were a kid and went to the beach and ran into the water and couldn't understand why the adults wanted to stay lying on the beach? It's like that; at the true time to terminate therapy, you understand "sunbathing" and don't have to run in the water first thing, tear open your Christmas or birthday presents at 6:00 a.m., eat the ice cream and cake first, etc. but can wait until you've got coffee and are a bit more awake :-) and have had the nice birthday meal. You still "like" the water and opening presents but aren't so "obsessive" about it, have more experience/broader point of view so there's lots of things to see/do and aren't so "focused" on T and therapy.