I think this is more of an age thing than a race thing....it's like you don't have to work, you don't have to worry about feeding your family etc...so compared to them they think you have no worries but of course dealing with a chronic MI create its own stress that can easily be be beyond work....next time ask if they would like to trade see if they pick their supposedly more stressful life or yours...if they say yes, hand them a haldol...(not really since that's against the law but seriously wouldn't you want to.....I know I would)