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I can't tell if this is a restriction, a punishment, a reward, I don't know.... But I can definitely see there are some serious connections at work here... I know it is related to my impulsivenes
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I think your T has given you an opportunity--to stay connected when you need it--and to get the attention you need without hurting yourself. Go for it, you deserve it. As for the impulsiveness, yes I struggle with that as well. I think it might have something to do with fear of not having our needs met if we don't take care of it imnediately, then nothing will fall through the cracks because we have taken care of business--even if that means SI-ing to release emotion.
Anyway, I'm with Almeda, it's your Birthday--go ahead and give yourself a gift and call!
HB

Sister