Depression is a terrible illness. I have some of the same feelings of incompetence as a husband/father. I'm also only on medication as I cannot afford any copay - it would be full fee because of the high-deductible insurance that we have...It's a lot for you to be dealing with, and though I don't have any solutions for you, I can empathize with your situation. I hope that you find some relief, and for that matter, I hope that I do too as I am searching for the same.