Originally I was trying to avoid seeing my friend. Last year when he wanted to visit I made up an excuse. This year he caught me by surprise with a phone call and I said o.k. I can't get out of it now without being extremely rude.

I have sensed that he has a dangerous side to his personality. He has a hot temper. He has always been more into strippers, prostitutes, drugs, etc. My exposure to those things has been mostly through being his friend.

Another worry is that I no longer drink. We used to always drink when we were together, so it makes it awkward now.

Actually one reason I moved away 15 years ago, was because I felt like my friend had a dark side and I wanted to end the friendship somehow. That isn't the only reason I moved, but it was a factor.