Oh, yes, I think many of us have issues with our mothers. My mother, in fact, had borderline issues herself. I am wondering if your mom might have some, too.

I still crave a truly loving relationship with my mom, although I know intellectually that I will never get it. I have found healthy relationships with therapists, where I have been able to work through many borderline issues. We just need to remember that therapists are human, too, and can't always be there for us. Now I have some good older women friends.