Hei Miranda. I'm sorry to hear you're in this situation. It sounds really tough. I wish I knew anything about how the Norwegian health care system works, but I can offer my own experience from Sweden: I went to a psychiatrist to discuss my antidepressants, and found out that he also offerend psychotherapy. I was paying out of pocket for therapy at that point, but I was not getting much help, the therapist and I were not a good match, and it was rather expensive. So I asked my psychiatrist if he would take me on as a therapy client, and he did. Thus, I'm now getting therapy which is paid by the public health care system, with a very good therapist who is helping me a lot; I see him twice a week and have been seeing him for over two years. The drawback is of course that he gets a long summer holiday, since he is a public employee.

My point here is that people who work in the public health care system can be very good, and you could be lucky - we have long queues for health care in general, but a therapist in private practice who has an agreement with the county (samverkansavtal is the Swedish term - I don't know whether you have similar things in Norway) can often have much shorter waiting times.

It does suck to have to leave a therapist you work well with. I really understand that. But just as it is with romantic relationships, there is not just the one therapist who will fit you, and I think it might be worth a lot not to have to worry about the financial side of things.