Did I say that you were the bad guy? No, I did not. Of course you have a right to your opinion - as do I, although my opinion is less informed as I do not know you nor your family and can only go off what you posted. You asked a question, and I gave you my perspective on it. Quite honestly, the way that you post reminds me of my own mom - which is a trigger for me. I could describe my mom's behaviour, but there's no way for me to do that without seeming to insult you really badly because I can't describe my mom's behaviour any other way, and I don't mean it as harshly towards you.

You said that your son calls to talk to you about random things quite frequently. That's a great relationship, and sounds like it deserves some forgiveness for being so wrapped up in their own child's pain as to not call you individually. Parents tend to be rather tunnel-visioned in regards to things like that, I'm sure you were too! Worry over a child tends to make everything else go right to the wayside.