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Most of my life was always socially awkward and shy. I remember when I was really young, I was a little more social and happy. I suddenly had a vague anger and depression kind of mysteriously sweep over me sometime in my early childhood.
There have been signs that point to the probability that my father is a child molester or a pervert at least.
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Maybe my father was molesting us both or just him in during sleep? Do some parents molest only one of their children or do they typically molest all of their children?
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I'm sorry that this has happened to you and your brother
, i'm afraid i dont have an answer for that first question, it's certainly something to bring up with your T though. If you don't have a therapist, are you able to get one?
and it really depends on the person. but it can be something that singles out on one child, or it can be more than just one child in the family.
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My older half sister used to babysit me when I was young and my father would do perverted things with her too. My mother told me that one time, my sister caught him peeking through the keyhole into her room while she was in her underwear and he was masturbating. The next day my sister told her boyfriend, who came to the house to put a lock on her room door.
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Is there a reason why your mother is telling you this stuff?
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My father is currently married to another woman...his brother's ex wife! Of all the women in the world, he chooses to marry his brother/my uncle's ex wife. It is just insane to me. Anyway, this woman is far from pretty. I don't mean to be rude, but she is really ugly. Her daughters (from another man not my uncle) are attractive though. I have a strong hunch that he married her to get to the daughters. The daughters were already in the early 20's when they married about 8 years ago. They are both married and living on their own now. One of the daughters is really irresponsible and doesn't raise her own children and had them taken away from her. The children have now been adopted by my father and his new wife.
The creepy thing about this is that sometimes I go up to visit my father (this was before I started really thinking I was molested) and there is a lot of drama there. His relationship with this woman can't come across more fake. It is obvious he doesn't love her. He is a control freak and a manipulator so she is completely wrapped around his finger. She has no opinion of her own. She is just a mirror for his own opinions. It is disgusting and pathetic.
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What(or who) caused you to start having this concern?
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The children they are "raising" are still really young. The daughter is like 8 and the boy is like 6 or 7. Last time I was up there, I overheard the daughter talking to the boy about sex! I was shocked. She even used the words "sexy" and "sex" and he replied, "yeah, I know about it" in a tone that signaled that he didn't want to talk about it. Later, I told her that she shouldn't talk to her younger brother about that stuff because he is too young. I asked her if she learned that from school and she replied that she didn't. This was really creepy to me. I wonder if he is molesting them?
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Is there a way you can bring this concern up with the authorities? They would be best at handling this. while we can speculate, and worry-they can can find answers and take action.
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For years, I thought I was maybe autistic or that I have Asperger's but my psychologist told me that I'm definitely not on the spectrum.
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That's kind of ironic, because i am, and i was wondering that due to how well you are at explaining things, and of remembering details.
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If I was molested or just growing up with a molester and control freak nonetheless...it would probably be the reason for my personal issues? I don't want to blame my parents for everything, but I'm sure he is the cause of much of my issues.
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I wish i could give you an answer to that. but there's no way i would be able to. but i can say, that the past (the good, and the bad expeirences) has led to who we are today.
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I'm tempted to try to talk with the children at my father's house and see if I can get them to tell me if my father has touched them, but I fear that I would be shooting myself in the foot. I might be labeled as a molester in the process.
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You'll want to let the authorities do this. If you were to talk to them about it, and they confirm it, then the authorities would still have to get involved, and it would be better on the children if they didn't have to relive the incidents more than they had to. and each time they tell someone about it(if it's happened), they have to go through it and relive it. Also if you were to talk to the children first, and if they confirmed it, then there is a slight chance that it could come back on you- not as the molester, but as someone who is leading them on, or getting them to say things, or any other way that it can be said(this is the reason why i asked earlier why your mother was telling you this). It's easier, and safer for all involved, if its the authorities that speak with the children about this.
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I also thought about going to the county courthouse to check if his name comes up for registered sex offenders. This is really bothering me.
I hope that some people on this forum could please help me out with this.
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That would be a good idea. depending on where you live, you might even be able to search the state's site for registered sex offenders.
Here is a link to the California sex offenders site, and extra information that can also be helpful
http://www.meganslaw.ca.gov/