I'm so sorry to hear you had to endure a relationship such as this. I have been in a similar boat. These men are very charming and manipulative, they know exactly what they are doing and how to do it to perfection. The good thing is, you are away from him and secondly you are able to recognize the abusive things he did in the relationship so you know what to look out for in the future.

It's not going to be an easy road to repairing yourself but you can get there. Try not to lose hope and trust in everyone. I know it's hard. I've been there and somedays I wonder myself... But I have met my now husband and he is very supportive. (He has gone through abuse too) First and maybe one of the hardest things is to work on yourself and do not worry about finding another relationship right now. I know most don't go looking they just happen. But until you work on your self esteem issues from this man breaking you down you are in danger of meeting the same type of man.

If you can see a therapist I recommend it, but please feel out the therapist. Some are specialized and do not deal with the effects of psychological and covert abuse. If they do not recognize the abuse you stated above as such find another. I know this from experience. My counsellor chaulked my abuse up to the abuser having diabetes. Because apparently diabetes makes you attack people and put them in a state of terror for almost three years... Worst excuse I've ever heard! If you cannot find a therapist google to see if there are any on a sliding scale for a reduced fee or call around to different programs to see if there are volunteers that you can talk to.

Keep posting here so we know how things are going.