Going through that off and on for the past 5 years. Glad i live in IL and my mom lives in Texas. But over the phone she treats me like a child. She thinks i should move near her. But i can't because she is verbally abusive and has never really been there for me.Maybe she is acting that way out of guilt for not being there for you growing up. I know that's the case with my mom. But in my case she is to late to be my mom now.