I hope you will tell your therapist this. Though it may not feel like it, you are in charge as the consumer, she is at your service. You two must agree on the manner of treatment for it to work. Of course, she may say things that bother you, but you shouldn't be feeling so out of control and violated that you're spiraling downward because she's being too aggressive with you. Definitely worth a long conversation so you two come to a better understanding and then you can decide what to do.