Hey everyone. I am new here and I looked at this site for advice and you all seem like great people!!

I recently switched therapists which was tough, but we did. I met him in the beginning of the week and I mentioned how I needed hugs. He asked me if he can hug me which I agreed to. He went on the couch and just held me, it felt great. I found him to be a great person. My previous therapist held me (more professionally, like a christian side hold LOL). Anyways, he was almost cuddling me in a way.

I am a girl by the way, and my T is a guy! I had to leave my old T because of financial issues. My old T use to text me at night to make sure I was okay and I told my current T this and he texts me about general conversations like right now we are talking about pop-culture related things.

I went to see another T (to compare and pick) today and I was upset about it so I texted the T that holds me and said it to him, and he said if I wanted I can come to his office and we can chat.

Today, we started the session normal and far apart, I was getting upset and he went over to the couch and sat next to me, held me, and played with my hair, rubbed my back, and all of that. It wasn't normal cuddling it was more like relationship cuddling which was odd. It makes me feel safe though. But I want to know if T's are allowed to do this.

Oh, When I was laying my head on his stomach I stretched my arm out and accidentally placed it on top of his crotch (my eyes were closed I didn't notice until after I opened it) and he was aroused. We hug at the end of our session and he hugs TIGHT which I can feel his crotch area thing (man i'm awkward). Like our 1st session he hugged tight, let go, and asked for another hug.

I don't know how I can react to this because the cuddling and holding is extremely comforting.

Is this normal? Can someone explain?