Thread: Am I wrong?
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Old Oct 01, 2014, 08:46 PM
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Originally Posted by Amandasmom View Post
My question is.....isn't a T suppose to mimic the good relationships you will have in the real world. In the real world, if someone helped you create a plan and then you relapse, they would show emotions and be upset. Shouldn't she showed some emotions. I wish she did. Or does she need to stay neutral all the time?
That's a good point and I think people can argue for and against it, like for neutrality or showing emotions. A lot of times when people have shown strong emotions, that's when I felt they actually cared about an issue. I had a therapist was so neutral about everything I thought she would react the exact same way if she heard her child died. In the whole year I saw her she never showed any strong emotions. I never saw her teeth, she only smiled closed-mouth a few times but it seemed forced. Never anger, never surprise. Like those people who had a lot of botox done.
But I can also see the downside of showing a lot of emotions, as others have pointed out.

I think the most important part is that you did not feel she reacted to you the way you wanted or expected. I feel like I say this a lot on this forum, but once again, why not bring it up with her. Ask your T, often the conversation that follows can give one better understanding.
Thanks for this!
Bill3