Someone told me that the 2nd generation of whatever-american kids do a whole lot better than the first generation, because we dont do to the 2nd generation what was done to us, esp in "old country ways". So maybe i didnt do as well as other american kids, but compared to some of my cousins, i did a lot. But i was still asking myself, who am i, this dumb italian kid my parents treat me as (projection?), or a smart independent woman? Its hard to keep a foot in both worlds.