Trigger..............

In my dads last months, his kidneys stopped working was the first sign. My mother was hysterically begging him to "go for her" - and i got this weirdly nauseating flashback of how she must have toilet trained me, making it all about her, and not at all about finding out how my body was feeling. Her ego - her mouth - fills the room, and youre squeezed in a corner, trying to do the actual physical work, with no help from her at all, only interference. That is lack of attachment, lack of attunement. They are just starting to write more about the lack. First they define attachment, then they can go back and see what happens when its NOT there.