I have both tomboyish and girlish qualities, but none of them are put-ons for me. I think many who fit one stereotype quite squarely do so because they find comfort in identifying with a larger group, and that's okay. But I think it's a great credit to unique individuals such as yourself, being able to get on in life without adopting aspects of unnecessarily stereotypical gender identity that don't happen to feel like a good fit!
The most attractive quality in any person is true confidence, and the best way to have it is to be your real self! And any that don't appreciate that sort of thing, I can probably get on just as well without. 
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“We use our minds not to discover facts but to hide them. One of things the screen hides most effectively is the body, our own body, by which I mean, the ins and outs of it, its interiors. Like a veil thrown over the skin to secure its modesty, the screen partially removes from the mind the inner states of the body, those that constitute the flow of life as it wanders in the journey of each day.”
— Antonio R. Damasio, “The Feeling of What Happens: Body and Emotion in the Making of Consciousness” (p.28)
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