I have had a hard time making women friends as well. I have just decided to put this on the back burner until my life straightens out. I'm a bit lonely but it can wait. I have financial issues (Can't go out/do things that friends do), Can't invite people over (Room mate is a hoarder)and I don't want to explain why, it's embarrassing and haven't found free meetup groups in the area I'm interested in. Lastly I get a lot of "looks" when people learn that I'm not just visiting this country I live here. The go home type looks. So I think in the future when things turn around I will try again but in maybe more urban areas and maybe contact other expats to meet up.

I have in the past had a few female friends but I too got the "let's hang out" the nothing. I think the worst thing is they tell you they will invite you to go to X movie and you wait and wait. Nothing. Then the next day at work you overhear them talking to your co-workers which were all invited sans you to see the movie with her. I've had people tell me to come over to their house for a craft day to hang out then the night before cancel saying their Cronic Fatigue Syndrome is acting up. (3 times this happened) then see people posting pictures on facebook a couple days later of her with 6 or so guests over, out at teahouses or at a party on the day she cancelled. I don't put too much energy towards relationships with women anymore. If they want to hang out, then fine, if not I wouldn't sit at home waiting by the phone anymore. To be clear I've had this happen with guys but only really immature ones. Something better came up so they cancelled.

I like the idea of having older friends though, even 60 year olds wouldn't bother me. I wouldn't want all 60's though.